Sunday, February 16, 2014

I want to cry!

Now, I finally understand why birth rate in SG is so low.

1) Price hike in everything every now and then. Everything is expensive! 

2) Beside having to discipline/teach your kid well into a proper upright person, 

3) YOU HAVE TO STUDY WITH THEM AS WELL, at the age of 30-40. 

As if having to work to support & taking care of the kids are not tired enough, still gotta go home everyday, burn every weekends, TO DO HOMEWORK WITH THEM. 



About 20 pages of Maths, 10 pages of English, a few pages of Chinese & 8 sets of e-learning English & Maths tests. Raeann just completed her mountain of homework & she gotta learn her spelling now.


And, just becos she can't catch up in school, I need to enrol her in additional enrichment class... I'm like tio forced to be kiasu, to pressurize her. Cos If I don't, she will suffer even more! 


It's not cheap!!! How much do I need to earn in order to support the kids for THEIR STUDIES ONLY? In this case, after paying all the necessities, food, kids education & whatever shit, what fuck is left to save? 

If I know is this tough, THANKS BUT NO THANKS, I'd rather not have any kid, or rather, not in SG. 

Let's put money aside, look at the stress SG kids are facing right now! Homework, spelling, 听写, it's never-ending, there's no time for leisure at all. 

Even if we go out, our whole mind will be filled with, "omg, there's still this homework that homework not done yet!!" Can't really put our heart to enjoy! (I'm saying IF, but we had no chance to, yet!) 

Honestly, I've no idea when I'll ki siao & burn away her homework, hahahahaha!

Edited : 11:20pm

老娘 is already in bad mood, having to teach & nag for 3 days. And yet, someone choose to annoy me with his/her dumb comment. 

Yes, serve me right for enrolling her into Rulang becos I want an easy way out, I don't wish to ballot for other school, I don't wish to go through the anxiety of balloting, neither the disappointment of unsuccessful ballot result. 

But if you're in my shoe, WILL U CHOOSE NOT TO ENROL YOUR KID IN? WILL U BE SO DUMB TO TAKE EXTRA EFFORT TO BALLOT YOUR KID INTO ANOTHER SCHOOL WHEN YOUR KID HAS THE PRIVILEGE TO ENTER?

It's just like when I tell people that I've got the urge to transfer her to another school now, everyone's scolding me crazy. But it doesn't mean that I'm happy that she's in this school. (Not unhappy too, just neutral, no feeling!) 

Yes, I know that Rulang has plenty of homework but it's just 6-7th weeks into P1, and they're still trying to adapt, so you mean that giving them mountain of homework now, is normal? Every kids are going through the same? Are you sure? Sorry but I don't see my friend's kid in even more "branded" school facing this problem. My friend told me that her kid doesn't have any homework yet. 

(I'm certainly not an unreasonable person. If it's my kid's fault, I'll not push the blame to others!) 

No, I've no idea that P1 standard is so high now, and I think I'm not the only one. High standard + pile of homework, I'm also trying to adapt!

And when you see your kid not feeling well, struggling hard to complete that pile of homework in her sick mode (I don't think I ever complained about her homework load when she isn't sick), will you not feel stress and sorry for her? Sorry, but I'm just a human, a normal mother who love her child. (You don't feel anything becos it's not your own child going through it right? Such is human nature!) 

But I can't do anything to help except to teach and re-teach her again and again. I feel so frustrated and the only thing I can do to vent my frustration is, to rant on MY blog! (Not as if I'm ranting the same thing everyday for the past 6-7 weeks?) I'm sure everyone has their own way of venting their frustration, don't tell me that you're so angelic that you never feel angry or frustrated before?

And sorry, I'm not a kiasu nor competitive mum. Please don't term me as one. I don't ask for much, I only want them to be happy, safe, healthy and know the basic rules of being a proper human. I want them to stay close to my heart, confide with me when they have problems, and not scare of me or hate me (probably due to pushing and stressing them with academic results?).

Last but not least, nobody's forcing you to read my blog. Thank you very much! 

7 comments:

  1. Who ask u to enrol her into Rulang.. u jolly well know that this the cons of getting her into that school isn't it... this is life... every kid faces that... it is call the survivor of the fittest...get on with ur life and learn how to deal with problems.. grow up!

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    1. No, sorry, I don't even know that P1 standard is so high now. Too bad I'm not as competitive as you, I want my kid to live happy. And how am I not getting on with my life? I managed to teach her all her homework, isn't this consider moving on? Please don't teach your mother how to fuck. If I don't know how to deal with my problems, I won't even be here now. Not happy to read my rants? Then don't read! :)

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  2. Hi Joanne, my gal is in P1 in JPS but I really don't see her with that much of homework so far *touchwood* Max is 4 pages of chinese and very simple de... Rulang's math is very 'challenging' sia'... I also dun understand why they teach maths in such complicated method... Am definitely feeling the stress u r going through now... My heart ache when I see my gal feeling stress and can't cope. I can't think about going out until all her work is settled on weekends! I am holding up plan on enrichment unless truely necessary as I knew it will add up to her/our work... Hiaz...the same thought of not giving birth to her had went through my mind many times... Cos I feel I dunno how to teach them and they had such 'kelian' childhood these days!! Hang in there!

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    1. Huh? U mean the P1 syllabus is different for different school??? I thought it's the same... Yah, sometimes I don't understand the question as well. Don't understand why they must make the question so tricky to confuse the kids!!! Yes, jiayou!! :)

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  3. Hi Joanne,

    I can understand how you feel. My boy is currently in P1 too but in another primary school. The load of homework is not as much as Rulang but I can also feel the stress of my boy because he is in the afternoon session like your girl. Everyday, he has to faster bath, faster eat dinner and then do homework. so far, he cried 2 times while doing the homework..asking me how come so many homework and how come need to write so many words :(

    I can understand you a bit more because my nephew is also in Rulang..he is already in P5 this year..I remember when he just started his P1 in Rulang...lots of homework everyday...and he did till 12am still couldnt finish it..my sister in law has to email to the teachers to ask them how come so many homework everyday to be complete and hand over on the next day..he cried because he couldnt finish it till 12am (he was in the afternoon session)..and initially, he woke up himself at 3+am to tell his mummy that he needs to do homework...and when he was having fever, he still insisted to do homework..so much that the mummy worried that he was giving him too much pressure.

    Well, somehow he adapted to it and he managed to move to P5 this year though he is into the average grade group.

    I think the family support is very important to the kids...you are already doing that..Keep going..we are already learning everyday with our kids...I think they teach us a lot of things..what I do to my boy is I encourage him and of course reward him for trying hard to adapt to these changes..I try to balance him with little things that will make him happy...

    By the way, dont get affected by what others said..have confidence in yourself that you are doing the right things...you are not alone..I think many parents (that I have spoken to so far) are facing almost the same things especially for those have kids in P1.

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  4. Hi Joanne,

    I can understand how you feel. My boy is currently in P1 too but in another primary school. The load of homework is not as much as Rulang but I can also feel the stress of my boy because he is in the afternoon session like your girl. Everyday, he has to faster bath, faster eat dinner and then do homework. so far, he cried 2 times while doing the homework..asking me how come so many homework and how come need to write so many words :(

    I can understand you a bit more because my nephew is also in Rulang..he is already in P5 this year..I remember when he just started his P1 in Rulang...lots of homework everyday...and he did till 12am still couldnt finish it..my sister in law has to email to the teachers to ask them how come so many homework everyday to be complete and hand over on the next day..he cried because he couldnt finish it till 12am (he was in the afternoon session)..and initially, he woke up himself at 3+am to tell his mummy that he needs to do homework...and when he was having fever, he still insisted to do homework..so much that the mummy worried that he was giving him too much pressure.

    Well, somehow he adapted to it and he managed to move to P5 this year though he is into the average grade group.

    I think the family support is very important to the kids...you are already doing that..Keep going..we are already learning everyday with our kids...I think they teach us a lot of things..what I do to my boy is I encourage him and of course reward him for trying hard to adapt to these changes..I try to balance him with little things that will make him happy...

    By the way, dont get affected by what others said..have confidence in yourself that you are doing the right things...you are not alone..I think many parents (that I have spoken to so far) are facing almost the same things especially for those have kids in P1.

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    1. Hanor... There was once she fell asleep while doing her homework and then woke up in the middle of the night and ask me "I finish my homework already meh?". I asked her to go and sleep and don't think about homework first. It's like the homework is mentally and physically stressing the poor kid out. I hope she will get used to it soon! :)

      Anyway, thanks for your msg! Let's hang on together!!!

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